Best configuration for sleeping with partner?
Mar 29, 2010 11:59 PM
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So, I do love my bed. But it isn't devoid of motion, and apparently my neurotic/anxious self won't allow any motion these days. So I'm trying to figure out how to configure a bed in which i can sleep with my partner (otherwise he's relegated to the other room).

I have the mattress on a platform bed with slats. The slats flex a bit, obviously giving a little motion to the mattress. Is it possible to put a mattress on a platform with slats that don't flex, or on a solid platform, or will any kind of platform add some movement? Is it thus necessary to have totally separate platforms/frames? I was considering cutting the mattress (latex/PU foam) in half, and sleeping side by side on the same platform bed, but this will probably still have some movement. I guess i need a platform with the same amount of motion as the floor (none), but i don't know if this exists. 

If i did cut the mattress, and get two different frames/platforms, maybe i could get a 'bridge' in case we want to join the mattresses together sometimes. But i assume that once i put the bridge on, it will transfer motion from one mattress to another. Correct? This would be once in a while, i guess.

So, it seems that I'll have to sell our beautiful platform bed and get two separate ones, if i'm to have absolutely no motion. Does this sound right, or is there something else I haven't considered? Thanks for any advice you can give a hopelessly neurotic person! ;)

Re: Best configuration for sleeping with partner?
Reply #11 Apr 1, 2010 11:56 AM
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Haha! I would SO be grinning! ;) 

And, i guess the electric knife just wouldn't be enough for this job, huh? ;)

Re: Best configuration for sleeping with partner?
Reply #12 Apr 1, 2010 3:27 PM
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electracat wrote:

Right now we have a platform bed with slats that flex a little.  Can i change our current bed to be more motionless, i.e. replacing slats with a solid piece of wood, or replacing the slats themselves? I guess i'd have to check with my boyfriend, since i'm not very good with building, etc.

And if that didn't work, we'd get separate beds. Or maybe i can slice the bed down the middle, like with the mattress layers? ;)


If you gave a picture of the foundation we might be able to answer that. I myself am not a carpenter but my guess is that you might be able to make it more solid and firm by adding wooden slats somehow - depending on how it's put together, that might be possible, or not. Adding harder wood slats to it or putting more across it or something...?

Using the same foundation MIGHT be okay, if you can make it stable enough so it doesn't bounce or move in normal sleep. You might try just putting the latex on the floor and see how that works. If that works out okay, then you can look into making your foundation more stable or buying a super stable one. OR, just buy 2 twin box springs - get the kind that are made from all wood, with no springs - and put those right next to each other with your King(?) mattress (I have forgotten what you have) on top of that.

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Re: Best configuration for sleeping with partner?
Reply #13 Apr 1, 2010 3:50 PM
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Jim,

thank you for the suggestions. We're going to play around with some things, and i'll let you know how it goes!

I have one more question: If we slice the mattress layers (pu foam and one top latex layer) in half, is it possible to glue them back together someday if we wished? 

I really should have been born into royalty, back in the days of separate quarters...;)

thanks!

e-cat

Re: Best configuration for sleeping with partner?
Reply #14 Apr 1, 2010 6:38 PM
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electracat wrote:

Jim,

thank you for the suggestions. We're going to play around with some things, and i'll let you know how it goes!

I have one more question: If we slice the mattress layers (pu foam and one top latex layer) in half, is it possible to glue them back together someday if we wished? 

I really should have been born into royalty, back in the days of separate quarters...;)

thanks!

e-cat

Yeah, you can glue them back. If you need to, I'll look up the name of my spray glue that I got from a memory foam place. It works for latex too. Or maybe Budgy can tell us the best kind (?)...

But I have my mattress even divided into 1/3's, for the shoulders, hips and legs, and even those don't drift apart if you just put them together, they tend to stay together (without glue).

I'd try putting the latex on the floor first. I think the transfer of motion comes more from the foundation than from the foam/latex.

Another idea I have is, let's say you buy 2 twin foundations - either box springs with wood as I mentioned or regular all-wood "platform" type foundations with slats. Start out by putting them about 1/2" apart just to stop the transfer of motion from the foundations. Then put the King foam over those, without cutting them. See if that works. If that doesn't work, then cut them in half to make 2 twins or extra long twins or whatever.
 

Re: Best configuration for sleeping with partner?
Reply #15 Apr 1, 2010 9:34 PM
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Thanks! So glad to have your suggestions. :)
Re: Best configuration for sleeping with partner?
Reply #16 Apr 1, 2010 11:01 PM
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if you ever want to glue latex layers together you can actually get latex based adhesives, that would probably be best.
Re: Best configuration for sleeping with partner?
Reply #17 Apr 2, 2010 12:33 AM
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electracat wrote:

Jim,

thank you for the suggestions. We're going to play around with some things, and i'll let you know how it goes!

I have one more question: If we slice the mattress layers (pu foam and one top latex layer) in half, is it possible to glue them back together someday if we wished? 

I really should have been born into royalty, back in the days of separate quarters...;)

thanks!

e-cat

The easiest way to "glue" the sections back together might be to get a new mattress cover and just zip it all back inside.  Or to really get the feel of a single mattress, splurge on a new topper to lay on top of the split layers.  That's what our flobed is and it feels like any other mattress, and though I'm presumably less sensitive than you I don't feel my husband's movement at all.

If nothing will allow you to sleep together you can always go to separate beds, but you can do this gradually to discover whether you really need to go that far  Why don't you try a step by step approach until you've found your tolerance limit?  First, cut the bottom layers in half but keep the top one intact, and leave it on your platform.  If you still can't sleep, cut the top one.  Then see if you can get a half inch gap on your current foundation.  Or put a piece of plywood over the slats to dampen the amount of flex possible.  Then separate foundations.  Save the pair of new beds for last.

Linda
 

Re: Best configuration for sleeping with partner?
Reply #18 Apr 2, 2010 11:59 AM
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markbnh1 wrote:

"Or maybe i can slice the bed down the middle"

 

 

 

I'm picturing electracat with big grin on her face while holding a chainsaw above the bed!   hahaha  devil


Here's what I was thinking...I am sick and tired of replacing mattresses every two years..  I am in the market for a new Eastern King latex.

Considering Englander all Talalay and Stearns and Foster or Sealy (aren't they made the same... owned by the same parent co?) Anyway..

when discussing hammocking with the owner of The Sleepe Shop chain in So Cal... he said that any king mattress on a frame with the 

support in the middle will hammock..  it's only logical... SO  I am considering getting two twin xlong sets which would be the same size as

the eastern king and I could use the same bed linens... Or would those mattresses hammock eventually too ??

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