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i havent answered your Q huh,  .. ok just my opinion but i think your 2 soft on your hips to support your back, some ppl cut out places for there shoulders to get the right feel maybe ( and its a big MAYBE) but consider adding more support under ur hips and back to see if it helps.

dont know if this helped but good luck ( god i sound like an idiot)  sandman help!!!

thanks

aaron

Combination side sleeper back sleeper ... lower lumbar pain.  170 lb male.  Spent 4-5 years in constant pain wrestling through 23 mattresses and 100 toppers.  Couldn't even tell if there was an improvement in topper shuffling there was so much residual pain.  I took the surgery leap maybe 4 months ago to isolate the comfort layer from the support layer (springs)... with sandman's help and example.  Have been sleeping pretty well with 4 one inch layers over just the firm continuous springs from a Firm Serta Perfect sleeper.

You, like me and others with back pain... need firm to very firm as close underneath just enough or as little comfort layer as possible... soft at the top ... medium... to firm as you go down.

I chose the Serta for the continuous coil.. recommended for us with back pain.

You know we side/back flipper problem:  need thin layer of shaping comfort layer over firm when lying on back... and a much thicker conforming comfort layer when lying on side.  And quite firm... right under the comfort layer.

I have concluded that only memory foam... on the top layer can get even close to doing that.

I literally have only slept when my top 1 inch layer was-is the 1 inch 4 lb density eco green memory foam from overstock... think they call it comfort dreams, too.  It is not as hot as some ohter mem foams.  You build down from there... as stiff as you can stand... if too stiff.. soften it up.  I am keeping my comfort layer over the "base"... for me springs...  for you probably 30+ ILD Latex.... to 4 inches.  Otherwise, my butt sinks in when lying on my back... and I wake up in stabbing pain.  I interpret this as "my lower back senses my butt 'falling in a hole' and works all night at holding up my butt... so those muscles are in tired agony when I  awake."

Just checked.. I guess I recommended the enviro green mem foam so much it sold out.  Here's a reasonable substitute.. I tried it a while back and was almost as good, but now more expensive:

http://www.overstock.com/Home-Garden/Comfort-Dreams-Mem-Cool-1-inch-Memory-Foam-Mattress-Topper/3169352/product.html

I bought the Cal King and cut to Queen to be sure it fully covered the bed.  The comments said the cheaped the dimensions.  This is easy to do with office scissors... use a tape measure and dot your cut line every 6 inches or so to stay in line.  No one will ever see it, so doesn't need to be perfect.

mem foam sleeps hot, but with a pad over it.. and no more than 2 inches, and the second.. if you decide to... firmer 5 lb sensus... it won't be wrapping you so tightly that it will be hugely noticeable.

For a month, I have followed up the 4 lb mem foam top to bottom with 1 inch of super soft poly foam from foamdistrubuting.com.  This is slightly softer than 20 ILD latex from FBM.  Then 1 inch 20 ILD Fbm.com   Then another 1 inch supersoft foam on top of the  springs.

Start with the one inch of 4 lb mem foam immediately.  Get a queen.  You can fold it to see what 2 inches on top of your firmer foam feels like. I guarantee that will take you in the right  direction.  You may need 1-2 inches more of the soft poly foam or 20 ILD on top of firm foam.

I tried blocks of latex as a base. I very much did not like it.  I found even 2x2" x 20 ILD as a latex base being "much" firmer than my Serta Perfect Sleeper Firm springs.  At least they flex some.. as they are supposed to.

I guarantee 1-2 inches of 4-5 lb mem foam... then 1-2 inches of 20+ ILD then quite firm will be heading in the right direction.

Good luck.  I have been there... we have all been there.  Hopefully you are right around the corner from success!

Paul

I don't usually get that much back pain, but sometimes when I have gone too soft (and I feel I am sinking in too much) I get pain.  But, I have also had back pain sleeping on really firm innersprings.  So, it really can be either.

Do you have any of the old pieces remaining?  If so, maybe try the medium talalay instead of the medium dunlop and see what happens.

I know when Jimsocal tried the medium dunlop from Sleepez, he thought it was really firm.  He could not use it.

Yes it seems to me that I never really had low back pain until I added the firm dunlop to the bottom of my stack in January. Before that the firmest I ever had was Soft Tal over 2 medium dunlops. So that would be an argument that its too firm now. Which would say replace the firm dunlop with a medium dunlop to make it like it was before. Also, the only backaches I've had in the past were caused by too firm mattresses (usually in hotels).

But when I added the firm I also added a 1" soft to offset the extra firmness and allow my shoulders to sink in more on my side.So maybe now the overall effect is still too soft? It feels reasonably comfortable when I sleep on my back, but if I had to pick I would say I am probably sinking in too much. So maybe the 4" soft on top is too much. I can take that layer off but that will obviously make it firmer and if its firmness causing the problem that will be way worse.

This is all made much harder because my back really hurts too much to move the layers now anyway...

Steve
 

Is your impression that it feels too soft in the hips (sinking in a lot) or not when side sleeping? 

Certainly you need to try something else.   You can go firmer by taking off the top 1" and/or moving the medium dunlop to the bottom and the firm to the middle. 

It is possibly that it is too soft in the hips and too firm in shoulders for you to get comfortable.  If so, zoning may be the only solution.  But I am not sure you are at that point yet.  I would pick a direction your gut instinct tells you to go, and make it softer or firmer and see the results.  Certainly you can go a bit firmer with the pieces you have to see if that helps.  Not sure if you still have the medium talalay to try as well.

I did not read the long thread, so not totally sure what all combinations you have tried, but I am getting the sense that nothing has really worked?

Hah, I don't blame you for not reading the whole thread, its crazy how long it is!

I am actually trying to convert to back sleeping, but I don't seem to be comfortable all night that way. Maybe because I am too firm or too soft.

On my side it definitely feels like my spine is curved, my hips and abdomen are sunk in and making a U of sorts. I can "fix" this curve in bed by pushing down more on my hips to straighten my spine (if thats a clue). Based on picture (below) I think its most like the too soft example. Although if you notice in the too firm example the abdomen also bends. 

On my back it certainly feels like my hips are sinking in too. Again from the picture I would guess too soft, but again I can't really tell (as both cause a bend in the low back).

Yes, nothing in the past has been perfect, I keep wanting a softer comfort layer and I am never sure if I have the support layer right or not. I frankly think the back ache was from moving layers around, so I don't think I want to try moving anything for a little while. Also, backache fist started when I removed the 1" topper, so while in theory that sounds like a better option I hesitate to return to it. But I think I will as soon as back feels better...

Thanks...

It is a bit confusing, because you perception is that it is too soft (sinking in too much), but you seem worse when you make it firmer.  This is new information that the back acje started when you removed the 1" topper.  As you say, it is possible it started by lifting things.  Does your back ache during the whole day, or mainly when you wake up, then get better during the day?  Maybe give it some more time.

So, right now you are using S/M/F (the bottom 2 dunlop) with no 1" topper?    The dunlop can be a lot firmer than talalay, so you may have a bit too much soft but then below it is gets too firm too quickly.  No transistion.

I have never tried their dunlop, but does the medium seem like pretty firm stuff?

And part of the issues might be sleeping both ways.  Your setup might be okay for one but not the other.

Back aches all day, and has for 4-5 days now, but it gets somewhat better throughout the day as I stretch it, etc. Overall the backache seems to be getting better without changing anything, so I really am thinking it was lifting something, not from the mattress setup per se. 

Yes I am sleeping on S/M/F (talalay/dunlop/dunlop); yes the dunlop is noticably firmer. I often wondered if the transition from soft talalay to medium (but firm-feeling) dunlop might cause problems. But Phoenix often talked about building mattresses that way, he called it "differential" layering, where the support layer is really firm and the comfort layer is really soft and all the comfort comes from the top layer. I think a fair number of commercial mattresses are designed this way.

I took pictures of me laying in bed yesterday and decided that I was sinking in too much in any position so I removed the 1" topper before I went to bed last night (well actually I made my wife do it). Removing this 1" soft layer made a big difference - bigger than I would have thought. It feels firmish to me, but it also seems like I am straighter in bed, so I am going to try this for a few nights. If this is about right I might try replacing the 3" soft talalay top layer with a medium talalay layer. I think that would be a bit too firm, but then I can put 1" soft on top of that. That might get me closer to a firm mattress with soft pillowtop feel. It should also make the transition more gradual.